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|1||Before Sending Your Child to Counseling||Would a surgeon cut beffore examining? Consider that when thinking about counseling for your child.|
|2||Collaborative Problem Solving||A paradigm shift for addressing child behavior as well as can be used in couple counseling|
Powerful Concept to Alter Children’s Behavior
|There is a Jewish secrect for keying in on what's bugging children...|
|4||Recipe for a Healthy Child||Enjoy!|
To begin, only for one reason….
|Number one reason for giving it a try....|
|6||Here's how to stat addressing child school issues....|
Anguish Overwhelms Take These 4 Steps Before Other Action
|Decision making durng a moment of anguish can lead to a poor decision. Consider these steps first....|
|8||Dealing With the Ghost in Your Relationship||Troubled relationship? It may stem from experiences long ago....|
|9||Child Behavior: When nothing else works, consider these 7 strategies||Is it parenting or the times. Here's your answer and what to do.|
|10||Monkey See, Monkey Do||Knowing how to influence, we can help kids settle down....|
|11||Emotional Literacy||Managing ourselves is key to managing kids....|
|12||People Choose to See Me Because of My Approach||Longer meetings mean faster help....|
Challenge of Depression Extends Beyond the Individual
|Depresed? Include a loved one in your treatment for better results....|
Secret Strategies to Better Manage Behavior Without Punishment
|Punishment may not be what is needed....|
|15||Depression/Anxiety: Two Brief Explanations about Medication||Two brief videos to explain important informatino about anti-depression/anxiety medication|
|16||Child Behavior Problem?||Assess first. Treatment second. Here's how....|
|17||A Better Relationship is Only a Lesson Away||Therapy is about developing a more constructive set of skills....|
|18||Six Helpful Strategies for Life After Rehab||This may be the difference between success and failure.|
|19||This brings the consequences of the one night stand to a whole new level....|
|20||The behaviour you see direscted to others, could be directed to you....|
|21||Narcissistic Partner? How to manage or leave.||Strategic thinking is key - here's why...|
|22||Even Counselors have to Survive Persons with Narcissistic Personality Disorder||As much as our clients need to survive narcassistic partners, counselors must sruvive their many narcissistic clients.|
|23||The Dementia Edition||This contains the two next articles in a single handout.|
to Grips as the Memory Fades
|Counseling facilitates both coping and management of mind altering changes for both the person who is undergoing change and those others whose lives are also affected.|
|25||Coming to Grips as the Memory Fades, Part II – The Three Biggies||Chief among other issues are anosognosia, confabulation and disinhibition.|
Six Strategies of Subtle Emotional and Psychological Abuse
|If your partner is driving you nuts and you can't figure it out, this may help.|
|27||Adult Bullies||Not a pleasant experience for anyone, including myself....|
|28||Ask These Four Questions When Choosing a Couple Counsellor||You may wind up choosing this person to help you separate...|
|29||How Well Do You Truly Know Your Kids?||Recent survey says....|
|30||Parenting Guts||Do you have what it takes to parent? And just what does it take?....|
Lop-Sided Relationships and Depression
|Giving with nothing in return leads to depression....|
|32||Shame, Complicity, Intimidation||What keeps sexial abuse secret...|
|33||Sexual Abuse Counseling||Your therapist should be comfortable discussing this with you... This 3 minute video explains|
|34||Child Behaviour Problem?||Start with a Bio-Psycho-Social Assessment|
|35||Understanding and Treating Depression||Key things you need to know about depression and treatment.|
|36||Narcissists in Relationships||
Are you in a relationship with someone you think is a narcissist?
This may explain your situation.
|37||Considering Marital/Couple Counselling?||Convincing your partner is half the battle...|
|We all face it at some time in our life, but then what?|
But what treatment?
|Depedning on the underlying issue, treatment will differ...|
|40||The Age of Sexual Exploration||Reach out and touch someone takes on a whole new meaning for kids today...|
from your own business? We call it succession/exit planning….
|It took an array of porfessionals to get your business this far, now to change or wind down, it will take these porfessionals...|
|42||What’s up with the Silent Treatment?||In these instances, silence is anything but golden...|
|43||The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man||Abusive men walk among us and this is how they go about meeting thier needs....|
|44||Five surefire signs you need couple counselling||The time to look for help may be sooner than you think.|
|45||Is It Safe||Did your counsellor make sure marital therapy was safe to attend BEFORE you arrived?|
|46||Cross Cultural Conundrums||Being from different places brings different adjustments.|
|47||Valentine Gift||Renew the Woo!|
Focus On Your Child’s Happiness!
|There is something more important to concentrate on...|
|49||Jump the Pond||Realizing and then escaping unsuitable living conditions....|
|50||Multiculturalism In The Daycare Setting||What do parents want?|
|51||Down Syndrome||Adjusting to the news is half the battle and there support...|
|52||Resolving The Cycle Of Abuse||What keeps you hooked in?|
|53||Pre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse||It may be time to delay the wedding...|
|54||Verbal Abuse||Oh yes. Words can hurt. Deeply.|
|55||Remembering Family Traditions||The push and pulls of family expectations....|
|56||Couple Counselling||Should you be seen together or separately? What if abuse issues?|
|57||Working Parents And Child Development||Is work getting in the way of taking care of the kids?|
|58||Sexual Obsession? Stay away from the porn.||
Too much porn can bring conflict to your relationship.
Here's how and what to do about it.
|59||What’s That You Say?||It just may be a hearing loss underneath that concern...|
|60||Major Depression and Family||Not only does the individual need support but the spouse and children too...|
|61||Good and Bad||In view of abuse, assess your relationship on the bad...|
|62||Thinking of Counselling?||Make sure the service provider is matched to your needs...|
|63||Alcoholic? Quitting is only the beginning.||Now address the thinking and behaving...|
|64||Marital Therapy Explained||The ins and outs of marital therapy on one page!|
|65||Sexual Obsession? Step away from the porn.||Are you being asked to go beyond your comfort level?|
|66||ADHD||Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: Assessment and Treatment...|
|67||Drug abuse: Marijuana and Alcohol||From use to abuse to dependency...|
|68||Treating Teens Who Abuse Drugs/Alcohol||Strategies from intervention to treatment|
|69||The role of the ECE is special and here's why...|
|70||Happy Holiday Season Depends on Family Financial Planning||Strategies to manage the financial crunch and Christmas expectations...|
|71||Hooked on Video Games||Video game addiction is real and may require professional intervention...|
|72||Newlywed Boundaries: Holidays and Children||Defining yourselves as a couple, separate from your own families...|
|73||Issues for Immigrant Parents and Their Children||Parent/child conflict in the context of adapting to a new culture...|
|74||Moving... again!||Multiple moves can affect the children...|
|75||The Words Inside Your Head||What you tell yourself influences your behaviour and feelings....|
|76||Marital Tips List||A guide to surviving and thriving in marriage....|
|77||Sexual Abuse Counselling by Family Physicians||If you provide sexual abuse counselling, this may be helpful...|
|78||When Your Child “Comes Out”||How will you handle he news?|
|79||The Happy Alcoholic Still Creates Problems||Even an alcoholic with a good mood creates problems for family and children|
|80||Distress In Cross-Cultural Marriages||Remember the loud talker or even the quiet talker in the Seinfeld show...|
|81||On Children, Family Life and Future||“You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.” Kahlil Gibran|
|82||Healthy Eating for Kids||Strategies to improve kids eating habits...|
|83||Challenging Teens||Wayward youth? Engage them...|
|84||Your children are listening and sometimes watching too.||What do you do when a child tells you their parents fight?|
|85||Understanding Is Not Enough||Misbehaviour cannot be managed by understanding alone.|
|86||Psychological Abuse||No bruises, big hurt, difficult to escape... Here's how.|
|87||Self-Help vs. Professional Help||There's a big difference!|
|88||Active or Passive Counseling?||Which is better depends upon what you are looking for.|
|89||Teen’s First Job||Chores at home and support in job hunting helps land the first job...|
|90||Secular counselling isn’t always enough||Conflict with God or faith? The help you need may be from your clergy or religious leader...|
really really difficult to get along with?
|This person may have a personality disorder... Read more!|
|92||Happiness won’t save you if the pond you are swimming in is polluted.||Alcohol use and corporal punishment don't mix|
|93||Make Amends||Even if you waited until the very end, still consider doing it for your legacy.|
|94||The Long Arm Of Domestic Violence||If you think we aren't all affected by domestic violence, then read this!|
|95||Frustration||Teaching your kids to manage frustration is in their interest... Here's why...|
|96||Your Past Matters||Kid out of control? Maybe how you were parented factors in.|
|97||Choosing Mr. Right||Strategies for mate selection!|
|98||Bless the Coach||Let them do their job and let sportsmanship rule the day!|
|99||Conflict of Libidos||Your drive may be different, but this doesn't have to be a deal breaker....|
Yes, but what type?
|Be sure to discuss your problem with the therapist BEFORE setting an appointment..|
|101||My Child is Odd||Hangs out with the adults, class clown, bullied, uses phrases or humour but inappropriately...|
|102||Out of Control and Pseudomature Teens||Hang in... change is a rough ride and starts with the parents....|
|103||The First Few Years Of School||Is your young child having problems at school?|
|104||Issues in Determining Learning Disabilities||Learning disabilities aren't always obvious. Sometimes, you have to dig deeper...|
|105||Marriages On The Cusp||Counselling may always be of service, even if the marriage fails...|
|106||Parents: Invest in your relationship||Recharging your batteries gives you more energy to parent the kids...|
|107||Save your money and get on the floor||It's not the toys that count, but your amount of play time together...|
|108||Rebuilding Trust||Do you know how long or what it takes to rebuilt trust when broken? This article holds some clues...|
|109||When isn’t child sex play just sex play?||Do you know the difference between developmentally appropriate sexual play and inappropriate sexual behaviour in children?|
|110||Am I Fat?||How would you answer if your child asked?|
|111||The Pre-Marital Toilet Test||This one question before marriage could determine how long it lasts...|
|112||Drinking and Parenting||Do you know how much can lead to trouble?|
|113||Sibling Harmony Versus Rivalry||Don't confuse different developmental stages for lack of love...|
|114||Ah, Newlyweds… then reality sets in.||Getting used to each other? Here's what to think about...|
|115||Effects of Exposure to Domestic Violence From Childhood to Adult Life||Domestic violence affects children in the present and in adult life. Here's how...|
|116||Assessing Change||Not sure if therapy or treatment is working? Here is how you figure it out...|
|117||Need help parenting a teen?||Are you a parent or a friend? It makes a world of difference in managing behaviour!|
|118||When a Child With Special Needs and Complex Disabilities Surfaces with Behaviour Problems||Where do you start?|
|119||On Coping with Death…||Children grieve too. Here's how...|
|120||Affairs Are About Anything But Love||Don't kid yourself and worse, don't compromise your integrity...|
|121||Parents can help prevent teen driver car crashes||Parents! You are the path to the keys...|
|122||Who's In Charge Anyways?||Grandparents, parents, children... Making it work when living together...|
|123||Living with Abortion||An abortion is an event in time, living with with the decision lasts a lifetime.|
|124||Childhood Sexual Abuse and Adult Intimate Life||It starts with understanding and education, then permission...|
|125||Assessing and Managing School-Age Children with Behavioral Problems||Get it right because getting it wrong only makes problems worse. Here's how...|
|126||The Granddaddy of All New Years Resolutions||All others pale next to this one...|
|127||How do you support siblings whose brother or sister many have special needs?|
|128||Parental Guilt and Kids with Special Needs||Some parents experience severe guilt for the special needs of their kids. Let's take a look at it...|
|129||The Impact of Formative Experiences||As we learn, so shall we do... but not necessarily.|
|130||But He’s an Angel at Home||Does your child get into trouble at daycare or school, yet is good at home? Consider this...|
|131||Check the Pulse Before Pulling the Plug||Divorce doesn't have to be inevitable. There may still be some life in the marriage.|
|132||Key strategies can encourage adjustment and hope.|
|133||Build Rapport to Facilitate Teen Behaviour||Teen out of control and consequences rising - what's a parent to do?|
|134||Tethered By The Electronic Umbilicus||Do you connect with your kids through the relationship or electronic devices? The relationship works better. Here's why...|
|135||Will Your Kids Be Of “Good Character”?||Learn the two secrets to raising kids of "good character".|
|136||Guiding Principle||Follow this advise and lead a life of feeling good.|
|137||Stepbrothers Teach Their Parents||Things change, adjustments needs to be facilitated. Here's one good one for the books!|
|138||Hitting hurts. So does exposure to it as a kid||
to domestic violence is harmful to children. This article explains...
(Domestic Violence - PowerPoint Presentations)
|139||Married Boomers Face Their Own Perfect Storm||Do you know the three major life events that can take a toll on your marriage if hit all at once?|
|140||Marital Therapy?||Marital therapy requires specialized training, distinguishing it from family therapy and individual therapy.|
|141||Think Your Teen Needs Counselling?||Exasperated parents of teens see counselling as a way to help. However, parents are advised to meet with the counsellor first. Here's why.|
|142||Which Dog Do You Feed?||Managing behaviour is a little like feeding dogs. Here's how...|
|143||Bribery vs. Reinforcement||Parents are right. Bribery does not work. However, reinforcement does. Here's the difference...|
|144||Good Teens Start With Good Beans||Growing up kids to become good teens is like making coffee. Here's how it works...|
|145||Check Ingredients Before Blending||If you are a separated parent who is seriously dating, consider these points to ease your children's adjustment before marriage or cohabiting|
|146||Parents are worried their kids spend too much time "chatting" on-line. Here's my advice.|
|147||You've decided on counselling, but do you use private or public services... EAP or third party benefits? This article explains the differences.|
|148||Some preschoolers learn to manipulate their parents feelings to get out of doing as they're told. Here's what to do.|
Sexual Abuse Counselling can help!
This article explains what's involved.
|150||Want to know what to do?|
As if parents didn't have enough to worry
about if their teen was depressed, now they have to worry about the
effects of medication. This articles discusses the role of medication and counseling
in treating depression.
Listen to a 20 minute discussion on Teen Depression
(Adolescent Anxiety and Depression - PowerPoint Presentation)
|152||Do you know the stages to a successful long-term relationship?|
|153||This article discusses 5 stages to recovery and challenges to sobriety.|
|154||Managing children means more than control or discipline. It includes joy. This article describes the use of joy to rekindle or maximize parent-child relationships.|
|155||Joy – Survey and Results||This link takes you to the survey and replies on which the above article is based upon. There are some great examples of ways to find joy in your children.|
|156||Appreciating Developmental Milestones||This article explains what is meant by developmental milestones and why the concept is important. The article is well suited to parents of preschoolers and early school age children.|
|157||Internet Safety and Children||This article describes warning signs for Internet misuse and prevention strategies.|
|158||Home from University||A tongue in cheek article about kids returning home from first year university.|
|159||Thinking of an affair? Then think again.||This article describes the impact of affairs on loved ones and offers practical advice before having an affair.|
|160||Tantrums getting the better of you?||Sure kids protest, but how do you handle the behaviour in the two to three year old? This article offers suggestions.|
|161||A Brief Synopsis of Child Sexual Abuse from Onset to Adult Life||This article describes the process of childhood sexual abuse and impact on child, then adult functioning and concludes with how to help.|
|162||Safe From Strangers||Child abduction is every parents nightmare. This article offers thoughts and tips to help keep children safer.|
This article summarizes a survey to define a wholesome family and offers tips to become one.
This article offers advice on understanding and managing the behaviour of two-year-olds.
This article reminds us of the importance of noticing good behaviour.
Remembering how you were raised can help you make choices with how you raise your kids.
Like the title says... Four tips to self esteem...
Taken from my book - tips to remember...
How to manage the behaviour of kids through holiday excitement.
Would you recognize if your teen uses drugs. This article may help.
Leaving home... the nice way.
Tips for effective discipline.
Check out the difference in parenting teens vs. the younger child.
Monitoring your teen is a good thing... Do it like this.
|175||Bake a kid? Here's how to bake a good one.|
So what's the difference?
Check it out...
|177||Tips for the Best Father's Day||The title says it all!|
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