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tip for a great Fatherís DayÖ
donít think a day goes by when I donít think of my father. Iím 47
years old and he died 21 years ago when I was 26. He was a good man, but
a workaholic. He was never around, but we enjoyed a charmed life. I was
an angry kid and none of my teenaged misbehavior seemed to bring him
closer, as I had secretly wished.
wasnít until he took ill, seriously ill, that we really got to know
each other, that we had a place in each otherís daily life. After his
near death and many operations, I was trained as his nurse to drain his
wounds and freshen his bandages. It was far too gross for mom. I
appreciated the job though. I was finally close to my dad.
care of him during his demise seemed to lesson the pain of his absence
from my younger life. I enjoyed his company and attention and through a
sad circumstance I was getting my fill. My attitude to life lightened
over those three years of caring for him.
Iím a dad, but not a workaholic. Both were conscious decisions. I work
from my home and have always enjoyed my meals with my family. One child,
a son, and we share a close relationship. I am available for him and to
a great extent this is taken for granted. Goal met. My son only has to
concentrate on school, work and friends.
Day is coming. I still have the pencil holder made from a decorated tin
can sitting on my desk Ė this from a son who seemingly takes me for
granted. Each year it is something else and each year I couldnít care
less. You see, the gift I enjoy, day in and day out, is the pleasure of
my sonís company and knowing he is secure with our relationship and my
place in his life.
heart, all men know dads are important. We just have to remember to act
that way for our kids. The rest will take care of itself.
a great Fatherís Day? Tell your dad you love him and give your kid a
hug today Ė before Fatherís Day actually arrives.
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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