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Family Professional Support Through the Separation/Divorce Process
It is almost a given that people enter into co-habiting relationships, particularly marriage expecting it will be long lasting, if not forever-lasting. Thus when a breakdown occurs, there is at least upset, disappointment and disillusionment. In view of same, some might argue that it would be of benefit to the parties, subject to the separation or divorce to obtain at least emotional support to facilitate the separation process.
Now imagine you are child whose parents are in the throws of a separation. Children are not only subject to the same emotional upheaval, but also draw their sense of security, safety, well-being and personal worth at the hands of their parents. Regardless of the quality of parenting, to some degree or other, from one or other parent, their needs are addressed. Separation/divorce interrupts the provision of care and undermines stability, certainty and continuity of relationships at times when the child’s cognitive capacity, by virtue of age, may be unable to interpret events reasonable to the situation.
Notwithstanding the issues common to every separation/divorce, there are yet other issues that heighten concern in terms of the outcome for the parties and their children. In the presence of multiple concerns, the risk of poor outcomes increases. Further, the actual concerns themselves must assessed in the context of their intensity, frequency and duration.
following concerns represent risk factors to parties subject to divorce. The
risks include anything from; contested divorce; to loss of relationships; to the
undermined development and success of children; to injury and death of any
family member(s). In the presence of any and particularly multiple or severe
concerns, the value of family professional support increases:
At the very least, it is in a family’s best interest to obtain a consultation from a person trained in assessing concerns in the context of separation and divorce. The family professional consultant must meet with both parties, either together or separately and the children, to interview and obtain data relative to concerns and offer guidance to mitigate risks as assessed. Therein the consultant may also offer guidance in order to meet the children’s ongoing needs and relationships between the parents.
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