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track of children’s residential schedules is often a source of conflict
between separated parents. So too is communicating simple things such as
doctor’s appointments, parent-teachers meetings and the like. Changes to children’s residential schedules and missed
appointments often serve as a flash point particularly with separated parents
who hold resentment between each other. As the anger for miss-communications on
these matters escalates, the children then become the emissaries and messengers
between their parents as they are positioned to deliver messages back and forth.
The children’s anxiety raises proportionate to the temper and anger of the
parents. Their ability to concentrate on tasks such as schoolwork is compromised
as their concern turns to their parents’ distress.
the Internet. Several websites have emerged offering the new millennium approach
to help parents keep track of schedules and to facilitate their communication.
For a reasonable fee, parents can subscribe to a service that stores the
residential schedule, keeps track of appointments and expenses and will even
send out email reminders of their children’s events.
best of these programs can even help parents establish their schedule and help
parents project out through the years to see when, according to their schedule,
other events such as holidays or birthdays occur. The advantage for many is that
it helps them plan well in advance and keeps them on track along the way. As
parents are kept on track, there are naturally a few less issues to fight about.
of these programs offer a slew of different functions including file sharing,
picture swapping, expense tracking, contact lists, reminders and more. However,
parents are advised to consider their real needs as the more a service offers,
the more overwhelming the program can be. For most users, scheduling,
appointment reminders, mutual communication and perhaps expense tracking is all
they really require. Further, some programs require a fee before service while
others allow a free trial period. The benefit of the free trial period is that
it allows the user to get familiar with the program before purchase. Those
programs that only offer an example can be made to appear far easier to use than
may be the case.
programs can be a real service to just about any separated parents. However,
they likely are of even greater use with separated parents prone to conflict. As
well as providing all of the above-mentioned features, it helps keeps distance
between parents who if communicating directly, may see their own behaviour
degenerate. Further, the service provides for accountability because neither
parent can claim not being told about an event if it has been entered into the
program. An electronic record dates entries and events and provides a detailed
history if ever these items fall to dispute.
the website services available, I have aligned myself with http://www.jointparents.com.
I was impressed by ease of use, the 30-day free trial and the quick response I
received from the company when I had questions. This website can be easily
contrasted with the several others available by searching Google, keywords:
joint parents calendar.
trouble keeping track of your children’s residential schedule? Then let an
Internet based program lend a hand.
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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