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THE
SEVEN GOLDEN RULES
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Always
have children's attention when talking and give them all the
information necessary to do what is expected, appropriate to their
level of understanding.
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Provide
the right information so children know what you want. Provide feedback to let children know they are on the right
track to help the desired behaviour get repeated.
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Praise
is necessary but not sufficient.
To facilitate healthy self-esteem provide generous amounts of
valuing, opportunities to develop competency, opportunities for doing
good deeds, and structure.
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Spare
the rod, but not the consequence.
It is OK for children to pay for behaviour that is
unacceptable, potentially dangerous or harmful.
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Negotiating
offers a process where both sides can come away winners.
Sometimes parents have to remember to let go a little.
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Be
aware of how you are interacting with others in the home.
Children are more aware than we sometimes realize.
Children will always learn more from what we do than what we
say. Parents are not
really gods. Sometimes
parents need help too.
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Factors
beyond the immediate scope of the family also impact heavily on
children's development. To
help our children, we must also work to create a better world.
Gary
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
www.yoursocialworker.com
gary@yoursocialworker.com
(905)
628-4847
Gary
Direnfeld
is a child-behaviour expert, a social worker, and the author of Raising
Kids Without Raising Cane. Gary not only helps people get along or feel
better about themselves, but also enjoys an extensive career in public
speaking. He provides insight on issues ranging from child behaviour
management and development; to family life; to socially responsible
business development. Courts in Ontario, Canada consider Gary an expert on
matters pertaining to child development, custody and access,
family/marital therapy and social work.
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