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your 8 – 10 year old boy/girl crazy?
year-olds obsessed with love notes, boyfriend and girlfriends, and the
like is very young but not unheard of.
notes and friendships are in part a game and in part rehearsal for
adolescence. With kids of this age many are "rehearsing" and
playing out the behaviour they see of teens and their teen idols.
Television shows like Canadian and American Idol do have young girls
swooning over dreamy contestants. One need only view the television
audience to see the effect on some of the very young viewers. Further,
they see other role models such as teen pop stars who blatantly use sex
for self-promotion. But the issue isn’t the role-playing or rehearsal
per se. The issue is how far they take the game or role-playing and does
it lead to trouble.
3) Parents MUST keep the home computer in the kitchen or some other open area where they can wander by. It is difficult for kids to surf for porn or any other dangerous websites when in plain view of mom or dad. Don’t give in to whining if they object.
4) Many TVs have "parental controls" built into the remote. Parents are encouraged to block channels or specific programs that show explicit sexual content. Even if the kids do not go there intentionally, they can catch a glimpse when channel surfing. A glimpse is enough to capture their attention and lead them astray.
Following these recommendations can decrease kids likelihood of young sexual experimentation, delinquency, drug and alcohol use, and getting pregnant when they become teenagers. The important thing is for parents, educators and other adults in positions of trust and responsibility to start when kids are very young. These recommendations should form a normal part of their lives. Let their life be filled with the fun and excitement of age-appropriate, healthy activities. It’s a prescription for better, safer kids!
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
is a child-behaviour expert, a social worker, and the author of Raising
Kids Without Raising Cane. Gary not only helps people get along or feel
better about themselves, but also enjoys an extensive career in public
speaking. He provides insight on issues ranging from child behaviour
management and development; to family life; to socially responsible
business development. Courts in Ontario, Canada consider Gary an expert on
matters pertaining to child development, custody and access,
family/marital therapy and social work.
For information on Direnfeld's book, Raising Kids Without Raising Cane, click here.
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