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separation, what about the kids?
the ongoing care of children between separated parents can be a source of
conflict. Parents worry about who is responsible for what decisions and they
fret about developing a residential schedule between them. Further, in the run
up to developing a plan, they can get caught in a battle of wills, believing one
or other parent must be responsible for all major decisions. They start talking
about child custody with both parents starting to scare the other.
is, most parents are in agreement on the larger issues. Most parents would agree
that if their child needed medical attention, they would follow through.
Further, most parents agree on the need for education and thus seek to have
their child continue at school. So for most parents, it tends to be the
nitty-gritty issues rather than the big ones that really require sorting out.
Parenting Plan Worksheet has been developed for just that purpose. A 12 page
document, it has been developed by social worker, Gary Direnfeld, with the input
of hundreds of other social workers, and family lawyers worldwide.
benefit of the Parenting Plan Worksheet is that it helps parents discuss,
negotiate or mediate the ongoing care of their children. Parents simply fill in
the blanks and spaces provided to develop their unique version.
if parents are concerned about a parentís alleged substandard care or have
concerns about abuse, drugs or alcohol, all these issues can be addressed and
spoken to within the parenting plan.
concentrating on the nitty-gritty and finding solutions to issues arising,
parents can actually avoid requiring blanket statements on matters of child
custody. Hence, neither parent feels left out of the life of their child
although there still may be conditions, restrictions or expectations to enable
certain responsibilities and/or time with the child.
more information about the Parenting Plan Worksheet, go to:
Get you copy, fill it in on your own or with the other parent. Use it as a tool for discussion, negotiation or mediation. If necessary, take it to your lawyer to serve as the basis of your position when sorting matters out with the other side. It just may lead to an easier agreement.
Still fighting child custody issues? Use this:
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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