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was chatting on Facebook about mediation. A colleague was saying how few of her
cases resolved through mediation.
advised that most of the folks I see for mediation do resolve their issues. She
then wondered if that was because I choose my clients carefully and donít
accept those who are challenging.
Not true. I have a reputation of being willing to see and work with those folks
whose situations are thought of as intractable by others. It is not uncommon for
the folks I see to have drifted through multiple other service providers. No
cherry picking here. These also include those folks who have burned through all
their funds on litigation and seem to have no other recourse than mediation.
I am cautious though is in working with couples where there is a history of domestic
violence. This is not to say that I donít accept the referral, but
that precautions must be taken to keep people safe in the process. This can
include people arriving and leaving at staggered times and/or meeting in secure
locations and/or having lawyers
present during the process. The issue is more how to proceed
than if to proceed.
much has been written about the appropriateness of mediation
in view of domestic violence and power imbalances, if left to court, the parties
are still subject to the whim of the judge. At least in mediation, you still get
to determine your own outcome and you can have the support of your lawyer or
anyone else necessary in the process.
Ė If you happen to get along reasonably well with your former partner,
it would also be my pleasure to work with you to help determine the plan for
taking care of your children between you! Nasty situation or nice, experience
and expertise in mental health, child development, parent/child relationships
and facilitating parenting plans can go a long way to determining reasonable
you think your situation is intractable, still do take a look at my many
services for facilitating settlement. When you consider what you
really do have to lose, the cost of trying something reasonable may be well
worth the effort.
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
Call Gary for your next conference and for expert opinion on family matters. Services include counselling, mediation, assessment, assessment critiques and workshops.
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