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Tooth Fairy

 

Question:

My daughter's 7 and still believes in the tooth fairy. She is being teased by her friends who seem to have figured it out. What should I tell my daughter?

Answer:

Funny you should ask. In our extended family, I am known as the one who has the phone number to the tooth fairy. The story starts with our son, who had trouble going to sleep in anticipation of the fairy's arrival one night. I picked up the phone and pretended to have a chat. Out loud, my son "overheard" my end of the conversation. "Oh, you won't come by until my son has fallen asleep? Thank you, I just wanted to understand. Goodbye."

In the morning my son questioned me vigorously about the overheard conversation. I explained that I did have the phone number and even if he were to call, the fairy would not speak with him, as he was still a child. He accepted my explanation and the story spread to his cousins. Thereafter, whenever a niece of nephew lost a tooth, Uncle Gary got the call to inform the tooth fairy.
We fill our children's heads with all sorts of stories in young childhood, be it the Easter bunny, the tooth fairy or Santa Claus. Our stories are to evoke wonder at the mysteries of life and positive anticipation of things to come and things to behold. Through our stories our children come to enjoy their life, family and view of the future.

In time, they do come to figure things out, but we can also shape this process and how they ascribe meaning to their realizations.
In suitable words, tell your daughter that there are many wondrous and unexplainable events in our world. As we get older, some children stop believing in things they cannot explain while others just go on to enjoy the memories of beliefs once held as new beliefs and understanding takes hold.

Tell your daughter it doesn't really matter if there is or isn't a tooth fairy. What matters is what she believes and what she enjoys about her belief. This is not something to argue about, just something to think about.

If you haven't figured it out, I enjoy sharing with children the magic of life and the magic of pleasant thoughts and experiences. Think of this as developing a positive approach to dealing with the negative events that life may bring. It builds resiliency.

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Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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