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Relationship Advice Ė
the Dangerous Narcissist.
starts by claiming to have been abused, hurt or taken advantage of by someone.
rarely do persons who were abused spew vitriol or seek to assassinate the
character of their abuser. More typically those who were abused seek for the
abuse to stop and for the abuser to take some degree of responsibility. Beyond
that most persons who were abused otherwise seek to live free from harm.
some persons with narcissistic tendencies or personalities will seek to
eviscerate those whom they feel may have thwarted their interests as if
thwarting their narcissistic interest was equivalent to abuse. The target of
their scorn could be a present or former partner, a service provider, their own
lawyer, a counselor, a tradesperson, oneís boss or a co-worker. What makes
these narcissists dangerous is that they will go out of their way to assassinate
their targetís character or well-being or business, seeking maximum vengeance
at feeling thwarted.
one sees such vitriol, hatred and descriptions of supposed terrible deeds they
ascribe to the target of their behavior, people are well advised to consider the
source and be concerned that this personís view of the other, may just be a
reflection of themselves. The process is called projection. They ascribe to
others, behavior and attitudes originating with themselves.
you are in a relationship with such a person, remember, the behavior they
demonstrate to others, can just as easily be targeted to you if they feel
thwarted by you too. Think twice about being sucked into a relationship with
persons who you see trying to annihilate another regardless of their
justification. You could be next.
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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