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Behaviour Problem at School?
6 issues areÖ.
year ended in a huff. When school let out, the pressure was off and the
behaviour subsided. Some kids donít fare well at school.
the new school year, parents worry and wonder, ďWill it be different this
the situation will be different: Perhaps maturation over the summer; perhaps the
first day of school pep talk or warning; maybe a different teacher; it may be a
the end of the first month and certainly by the second month you know. But what
if things havenít changed? What if school related problems persist?
this is your story, then it is time for professional help.
may seek professional
help from the school itself or from community resources or from private
of where you seek help, please do seek help.
child doing poorly at school on an ongoing basis runs the risk of falling
further and further behind. This compounds their difficulties. The child feels
buried in a mountain of work and becomes increasingly overwhelmed. As the child
becomes increasingly overwhelmed, behavior escalates in a bid to escape their
troubling situation. They cannot cope.
is where intervention by the parent is crucial. As much as your child may resist
your efforts to help, they cannot steer the ship. The child must rely on us to
take over the helm. We must recognize that the child at present does not have
the skill set to master their situation.
seeking professional help, the first place to go is directly to the teacher who
too may feel exasperated or defeated in their efforts to support your child.
Resist blaming the teacher and understand the enormity of their task, managing a
large group of students with limited resources. Hear what the teacher has to say
about your childís difficulties and ask for guidance.
do not have to believe the teacher to be right in his or her views about your
childís difficulty. However, explore the teacherís point of view and seek
help as may be suggested. You will at least then be in a position to confirm or
reject the input on the basis of sound evidence rather than an alternate point
of view. Even if wrong, in exploring the teacherís guidance you will have
narrowed the list of possible contributors to your childís challenges which in
turn can lead to a more correct analysis of the situation.
the teacher and the resources the school has to offer, you can also turn to your
family doctor, a community counseling agency or a psychologist or social worker
in private practice.
the way, consider exploring these top contributors to child behaviour issues at
in mind, kids typically want to do well. They seek to be loved, supported and to
be kept safe from harm or exposure to harmful events. Given their young age,
they are more limited in their skills and capacities to overcome adverse
conditions. Also given their young age, they will have less skill at
articulating their issues, concerns and needs.
your child is struggling at school, believe that underneath your child feels
scared and lost regardless of what they tell you. If we keep that in mind, we
can be less perturbed by the overt behavior and then more apt to hold them close
to lead them to help and safety.
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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